Although this article was shared on Facebook page: Christ Embassy.Org
Online Missions on September 4th and attributed to Pastor Chris
Oyakhilome, it did not gain attention until someone related it to the
Pastor's former marriage. Anyway, according to the founding president of
Christ Embassy, a Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage
but rather master. That the beauty of a woman lies in listening to her
husband and most women have never been taught by their fathers, hence
they think their husband is another woman. Read below.
"Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means
master. The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact
that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They
believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk
to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be
very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents,
their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they
don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because
he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think
he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are
wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are
married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority.
The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3)
so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not
authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a
rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are
not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31
“Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very
good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea.
This is reality.
Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be
alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big
difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him
an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special
advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so
woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is
understood in every home then you won’t have problems.
I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word
Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had
one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your
husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you
don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of
an older sister.
A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good
wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a
rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world,
just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a
beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place
of excellence.
Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of
him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over
him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.
A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one
will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when
you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your
husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because
that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are
dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style.
Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.''
#Excerpts from Pastor Chris' Teaching!
